Dad’s a scumbag, and Mom is in denial
December 30, 2007I haven’t been posting this past week because I’ve been in Idaho visiting my Mom. It’s not that Idaho doesn’t have Internet connectivity, it’s just my Mom doesn’t. So now I’m at the Boise airport, waiting on my delayed flight out thru Chicago.
The holiday season is not always a happy one for my family, as this year proved once again. Turns out my Dad is in fact the lying scumbag I always knew he was. When he and Mom divorced part of the settlement was that he would continue to pay for her dental insurance. I just found out from Mom that in fact he has now stopped paying it. She’s had to sign up and pay for her own dental insurance. And since he’s not living in Idaho it will be difficult to try to go after him in court.
Not that Mom would go after him in court, because she is in complete denial. She thinks that Dad will eventually come to his senses and honor his obligations. She went so far as to open a bank account at Wells Fargo, because they have branches both where she lives and where he lives (Las Vegas). To make it easier for him to deposit money to pay for the dental insurance.
She seems to think if it’s easier for him to make those payments he will resume. Of course he won’t, he’s a liar who has no problems with signing a legal agreement that he knows he’s going to break at the first opportunity. He’s been that way for so very long and yet Mom still doesn’t see it.
Sigh. Well I hope everybody else’s holidays were more uplifting and joyous than mine. 
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rex,. I’m sorry to read about what you have written about your dad, I just want to correct you, our bank record has a monthly entry of payment to PEARL ASSOCIATES since 2002 for your mom’s dental insurance, the latest payment was made on January 4, 2008. I don’t think you are being fair to your dad. Anyway, you and Ms. Jeanette are welcome to visit us so that you can meet your halfbrother & halfsister (Alexi and Alexa). And I want you to know that your DAD is not a liar, He’s been always good to us. And I know he’s a good person and he deserved to be loved and respected.
Marie
Hi Rex,
I got a note from your dad indicating he’s read about the theft of my computer (expressing sorrow and concern!). Since I had no access to your blogs, I did not know what he was talking about.
Now, I know!
And I am sorry you misunderstood our discussion… I must not have been clear… And indeed, some corrections are needed:
…not about the dental coverage.
I still have the note from my dental office indicating I had no coverage and thus they did not receive payments for my visit. So I paid the dental bill. I have the notes from my dentist informing me that they did not get payment. And I have my check record on the payment I made.
That’s what I shared with you when you were home. (Inspite of how you felt about the holiday, I was very happy to have you home and thoroughly enjoyed every minute you spent with me….I always do. we’ll try and do better next time.)
I go to the dentist twice a year because of dental problems and the insurance coverage is very important.
On the needed “corrections” on your blog (if truth must be said):
It is true that I established the bank account with Wells Fargo (where he banks) to facilitate transferring funds
That is for the $18,000 award stipulated on the divorce decree (that he owes me).
I do not think his wife knows that Pablo ignores collection letters from Chuck Fawcett…. Perhaps I should send her a copy of the divorce decree.
Everytime I have the lawyer contact Pablo, it costs me money… and Pablo just ignores the letter. My funds are very limited.
Chuck had suggested that I pursue this with a Nevada lawyer who can garnish some of the family income…. but, again, that will cost me money to put in place.
I have thought many times that since I cannot afford to hire a Nevada lawyer, I should just relocate to Nevada and announce that I am moving in with them — until they start making payments!
You always accuse me of not exerting effort to collect on what he owes. \
You are wrong. I am trying the best I can with the least expense to me.
Chuck Fawcett had written him….after 5 years…..and Pablo just ignored it.
Ultimately, this will be a debt Pablo will leave his family on his death —
No, I am not giving up. I know you don’t believe it now because of the things he had done in the past, but your dad is a good man.
He will honor the terms of the divorce decree. I am suere he is just waiting for the right time to pay the $18,000 (plus earned interest).
He knows he should not leave that debt for his family to pay. He spent that money, he will pay it.
And and as I always suggest to you. It is time to make peace … Give each other a chance to explain the “other side of the story”
I love you, Rex.
Mom
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